Getting through separation anxiety – Home Management Strategies

Being a parent is one of the greatest jobs in the world. But it can also be terribly overwhelming, especially if this is the first time that you’re spending time away from your little one. It can be hard for both you and your child to let go of each other and spend some time apart. But worry not, because your trusty Nannies on Call is here to give you some great tips on how to make the transition easier on you and your little one.

Practice Makes Perfect

Leave your child with a trusted caregiver or a babysitter for brief periods of time at first and then slowly increase the duration of time, until you both are comfortable enough in order to be able to leave for a longer period of time.

Create a signature goodbye ritual

Instead of making it a long and tearful goodbye, that will upset both you and your child, make goodbyes fun! It could be a simple phrase like “See ya later alligator!” to even a special handshake that you both can share. This will make the moment special and less anxiety ridden. 

Provide an ETA

Children don’t understand what- “I will see you 6 hours!”- mean. Explain the time in a manner that will make sense to your child like, “I will see you after play-time or snack time”. You could even have a countdown calendar until you see each other again, and it will be a fun way to note down the time passing by.

Leave without fanfare

Instead of having a long drawn out goodbye, keep it short and sweet. Give them a hug, take a deep breath and trust the caregiver to do the best for your child. Also, it will help your child if you manage to keep it together (stay strong mom!) when you walk away.

The most important thing is to make sure that your little one has a structure and routine. Give them loads of little extra hugs and kisses and by maintaining the same routine, you’re showing your child that everything is fine and that you will always come back to them even when you go away. We all cave in sometimes, so if you find yourself having drawn out goodbyes and breaking down while leaving your little one, cut yourselves some slack and simply try again the next time.

Written by: Arathi Aravind